Confidence
Knowing what you are actually good at
Self-assessment is unreliable in known directions, and the corrections are external rather than introspective.
Confidence
Self-efficacy, impostor feelings and performing under scrutiny.
Confidence
Confidence and competence are different things
They come apart in both directions, and the social rewards attach to the wrong one.
Confidence
Self-compassion, without the softness
A construct with a reasonable evidence base and a name that puts people off, whose main finding is that self-criticism does not work.
Confidence
Handling criticism that is partly right
The hardest feedback is not the unfair kind. It is the kind that is unfair in its framing and accurate in its substance.
Confidence
Speaking up in rooms where you feel junior
The contribution you decided not to make is invisible to everyone, including the people who would have valued it.
Confidence
Failure, and what it is reasonable to learn from it
The instruction to learn from failure is sound and considerably harder than it sounds, because the obvious lessons are frequently wrong.
Confidence
Asking for help without feeling diminished by it
People consistently underestimate how willing others are to help, and overestimate how much asking costs them.
Confidence
Perfectionism, and the two kinds of it
High standards and fear of failure are different things that get the same name, and only one of them is a problem.
Confidence
Comparison, social media and the reference point problem
People assess themselves relative to whoever is visible, and what is visible has changed considerably.
Confidence
Performing under scrutiny
Choking under pressure has identifiable mechanisms, and the interventions that help are specific rather than general encouragement.
Confidence
Confidence is a consequence, not a prerequisite
Self-efficacy research is clear about where the belief comes from, and it is not from being told you are capable.
Confidence
Impostor feelings: what the research actually says
A widely reported experience, a contested construct, and a set of responses that work better than reassurance.